Farmergirl - thank you. You are right in so many ways. Because my daughter seems so well adjusted, loving, smart, outgoing, on the outside, I hoped she felt that way on the inside. So much I see now that she was picking up from me. I know I put on a face for the world to see when I sometimes feel like I'm dying inside. But I have always been truthful with her in the hopes she wouldn't make the same mistakes. I guess I've proven the statement that kids learn what they LIVE. I would do anything to keep her from hurting like this. i was prepared for some of her stumbles through life - you know, the heart breaking break-ups with boyfriends, ending up in a bad job once or twice, etc - and i knew there were going to be many, many times I needed to be there for support and let her find her way through these things - but never once did i even consider this avenue we are on now and how to prepare for it. She is too young and too innocent to be dealing with such issues.