Hi mswinter,

I had the very same problem when I first began therapy, only not in relation to rape but other forms of sexual abuse. My therapist directly asked me, "did your sister ever touch you inappropriately?". I almost peed myself. However, this was after a few sessions of dancing around the fact that my sister had always been unkind to me and that the things she did to me were very unfair and had significantly changed my life. Even after she knew, it took me a long time to be able to really talk about it, but she was there to support me and to challenge me.

If you're unsure that you could bring it up directly (which, by the way, is completely understandable), you could say something like, "I know we've discussed physical abuse, but I have also suffered abuse in other forms and it's very difficult for me to discuss." Or, like Pbutton said, you could bring up that there's something important but very difficult that you need him to help you communicate to him.

Good luck to you!! You can do it!! You have already been so smart and brave to seek therapy. <3