I also had been in therapy a few times before without ever being able to disclose my CSA and I also want this time to be different. I used the "I have something I need to tell you, but it's very difficult and I don't really know how" approach and T gently helped me through it. He didn't ask specific questions to pull it out of me, but once I told him it had happened, he did ask questions about the abuser.

He has never asked specific questions about the abuse itself, though. He knows that it's still too difficult for me to talk about it and he doesn't want the discussion to be traumatizing to me.

When I told him about the physical abuse (6 months into therapy), he asked very specific questions, similar to what yours asked you. I'm actually curious about why he took that approach for the physical abuse, but not for the sexual abuse.