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Originally Posted by Fleur**
I do a weird kind of 'push-pull' thing when it comes to space. When someone's close to me, it's great and then I suddenly feel suffocated, and can't take it. This is when I isolate myself until I get desperately lonely, and then the cycle starts again.
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I am just discovering this about myself. I'm fine around somebody up to a certain time limit, then I become a different person, like it is just so much effort to be around them. I think perhaps that I am so energized when I am 'being me' with somebody that I burn out after a time and just have to recharge my batteries. I thought it was some kind of social anxiety but now I'm beginning to rethink that.
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Originally Posted by Fleur**
I think that guy sounds psychologically healthy- a psychologically healthy person can live without their partner. They don't crumble like Bpds often do when alone.It's actually a compliment because it means they're not with you for the selfish fact that they are totally dependent on you. Instead, they're with you because they love you, which is technically far better, although the fact that someone would love me in that way is disconcerting to me in itself. I'm used to codependency, not love! Eek. ;-)
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This sounds so much like what I was thinking. I'm so used to people who are not emotionally healthy that I hardly know how to deal with this person. Well, I suppose that's why we usually end up with the kind of people we're used to...we understand them. They may be bad for us...but we 'get' them.