Don't know if this helps at all, but I've done thinking about that word "fault." What is fault?

Fault is the action which produced a result. Fault is neither negative or positive. As much as a avalanche is at "fault" for creating a disaster, it is also at "fault" for the creation of natures newest streams, meadows, habitats.

Fault becomes a bad thing when blame is attached to it. Would we blame an avalanche for its destruction or simply accept it as an act of nature? Should avalanches be banished from existence or linked to evil?

When my older sister announced to our family she suffered depression, she felt compelled to provide justification and blamed my mother. In turn, my mother became depressed about the guilt she felt about the blame she recieved for the fault she'd been accused of.

When it was my turn to admit that I also suffered from depression, my mother cringed, waiting for the blame to be laid on her shoulders. Instead, I chose to be silent about what I thought the cause of my depression was. Today, my mother and sister still won't speak. I have the closest relationship with her I've ever had.

What good is blaming? Understanding the cause of a thing is sufficient to understand the result. Laying blame is un-neccessary and messy. Why blame anyone, including yourself?

Love ya fuzz.....

"Our greatest glory is not in never falling, but rising every time we fall." Confucius