Thanks for your thoughts. It is a struggle to have a positive relationship when it is such a complex one. Some mother-in-laws can be so in your life and yet mine is not and I am grateful for that. I have come to realize her own insecurities and struggles and yet I see myself judging her as much as she is judging me. I am trying to have more compassion for her. I guess I just want to win her over, but just have to accept that I may never do that.