My T and I were discussing something once and ended up on the subject of my first sexual experience. Even now, I'm not sure how that happened. In any event, I just sort of described the event in general terms. I had never been drunk or had more than a few sips of an alcohol beverage. He took me to a party and brought me drinks, etc. When I was done with just the general overview, my T asked what I did after he raped me. I had NEVER used the word rape. I still have trouble with it and can feel my heart racing just typing it.

My T did say that he's fairly careful about asking question about childhood sexual abuse and rape. He says too direct of a question about sexual matters in particular (as opposed to 'just' physical abuse) can be very re-traumatizing to the client.