My husband informs me today that his daughter will be spending a few days with us. (She comes to us every Sunday through to Monday). Now I don’t have a problem with this at all, but …

There are many reasons involved as to why he would like her to spend more time with us, but somebody kind of forgot to ask if it was ok with me. If I have to look after my stepdaughter (5 years old) for a week it means I need to pretty much stop work and forget about going to gym (I walk there, too far for her to come). There are some other things I had planned which I now need to drop.

After some thought, I asked my husband to please look at it from my point etc. He got angry. I managed to mollify him but I am still angry that all these plans were made without me being part of it. He backed down enough to say “I didn’t think about that” but probably won’t change the plans made outside of me.

I love my step daughter, and yes, if she lives with us one day, I’ll adjust my life at that point. But she does not live with us now and if she is coming to stay with us, I think it is only fair that I know about before the time.

I am feeling angry that it seems I am not being considered, yet I am expected ……