I use to really want a relationship with my MIL because mine was so broken with my own mother. I use to think we got along rather well, even though I'd done some things that upset her. It wasn't until recently that I learned her thoughts towards me. I wish I could go back to where I was blissfully unaware. But I can't and I can't handle being around someone who thinks that when I'm being nice it's part of some evil ploy. I just don't know how to tell my husband this in a non-confrontational way and have him not get upset with me. Thankfully he's is the military, and hopefully we'll get stationed elsewhere in the next few years and it won't be such a problem.