It's a difficult situation, but I hope things will fall into place. It seems like you really see the good in him and they're important to you. If that's so, are you willing to wait. I don't know him but he sounds like my boyfriend, he needs stability and some men want to feel independent and be able to provide before making this type of advancement. maybe he is a particular type of person. I felt pressured because everyone else around me was getting engaged, but pressure was the wrong reason.