this is NOT messed up, it's an excellent point. you mark the difference between knowing about someone, and knowing someone. Revealing whether one has children, or is a vegetarian, or plays the piano, is for knowing about. Showing one's emotions - ah, that allows the other to know the person.

But AT = IMO it doesn't prove that your T relationship is superficial; it's just unique, and in it the T has to keep a certain distance, for objectivity. It's the reason your best friend (whom you know, not just know about) can't be your therapist.
at any rate, it seems that the relationship will allow a certain amount of knowing about T, but not too much knowing.