Hi Bluegirl, welcome to PC. Sounds like your parents are into controlling you and into punishment. I don't understand parents like this because I feel that my job as a parent is to help my child develop and controlling my child and punishing her doesn't accomplish this. Understanding my child and guiding her works better. I'll bet that your parents were raised the same way.

Someone who lives in my neighborhood parents like this and their hallmark is excessive and LONG punishments for things that I would just ask my daughter not to do (and she would comply). They are really into control too.

You lost your privilges for a few YEARS?