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Originally Posted by kirk
I don't mean that I will try to keep an ideal picture of him. That is as destructive as keeping a bad picture of him. I just don't get nowhere if I hold him responsible for the unsuccessful ending. That would prevent me from truly grieving, and then I would be really in trouble. My major conflict in the therapy was not solved, the fact that I could not stop and consequently could not get to the real problem that pesters me in my life.
I am considering seeing some other therapist, but I don't know if that is a good idea. I don't know any other therapist. I realize that I have to do something, because this situation is too precarious. It seems not healthy.
Are you in a terminating process?
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I am still, in a sense, in a post-termination process after a destructive therapy experience, so it's very different from your own situation. However, I do urge you to see someone else. I agree it seems not healthy. The fact that you could neither stop nor deal with the big problem is...well, problematic. I think it IS a good idea to see another therapist ...and set limits at the very first appointment for a certain number of sessions in order to work out your (only partially successful) termination. The fact is, I think you need some referrals from an insurance provider, a colleague, a friend, ....to work your networks to find someone great. And then start going through this piece by piece. Things will open up....
Please continue to post here. There is a lot of wisdom on this board, and I made a big transition, in part due to the help of this group.
You can pm me or I will contact you personally.
You will get through this out into another phase that will leave you enlarged by this experience. The very fact that you are asking these questions is HUGE. Hang in there....