Sadly, it takes a long time to get into therapy anywhere in the states...Keep trying. Alcohol seems like it is a big contributor, but you already mentioned that...

It probably is the depression talking. When people are depressed, they don't want to be around anyone. I know that's how I am...

Maybe he's nasty towards you because of his suffering - you know, displaced aggression and such...

I hope that the two of you can talk things out. My wife has been angry at me because of my depression, and I've been angry at her because of what I perceive to be lack of support - but we do the best we can to talk it out with each other.

It is my sincere hope that your bf gets in with a good therapist and also addresses his substance abuse problems.