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Originally Posted by student646
Let me start out by saying: I am a 22 year old woman and I have never had an orgasm, even with masturbation. I am bisexual but generally prefer sex with women.
So I tend not to enjoy sex all that much. I mean, I find it enjoyable but only in the very beginning and I usually want it to end before it does. When I have sex once, I am usually turned off to the idea for a really long time. I have gone for months - over a year sometimes - in between sexual encounters and I am fine. I never think about it. Also, I usually want to sleep right after sex.
So a few days ago, my sex drive just exploded out of nowhere - and pretty much exclusively for men. I am doing a study abroad, so the new location might have something to do with it, but I have been here for a month now. I have a casual sex partner but he can't keep up with me. I want it every day, more than once a day. When people are talking to me, I am smiling and nodding and thinking "What if you just shoved me up against the wall right now?" Usually I am picky about sex partners, but I feel like I would take just about anyone. I don't think my casual partner wants to have sex tonight, and I am genuinely distressed about it. I am finding it very difficult to concentrate on anything else. Also, I absolutely cannot go to sleep post sex - I have only gotten around three hours of sleep for the past two nights. I still don't orgasm, and I still want it to end before it does usually, but after a few minutes of rest I am ready to go again.
Has anyone else experienced this? And also, wtf?
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Student,
This is going to sound strange but...
Are you sure you're NOT having an orgasm? What you're describing sounds like the normal rush and peak of excitement, then a refractory period, then a desire for sleep or for additional stimulation.
Sometimes, especially when it's been a good while, I can rush at 1000 mile/hour to an orgasm only to find that it flew by and I missed most of it. Leaving me mostly unsatisfied but needing time to regroup my mind and body for a second go at it. With practice, patience and control, you learn to take your time and let it really build up the peak to the point where when it happens, there's no mistaking it. Maybe being only 22, you've just not quite mastered that?
If I was you, I would talk to a doctor. I'm sure it's embarrassing but the benefit would be well worth the trouble. I know it sounds strange but they can actually monitor your brainwave to determine whether or not you have had an orgasm.
Also, sudden hormonal changes can be caused by some medical problems and it's a good idea to have them ruled out.
Good luck!