There isn't a thing wrong with wanting your partner to be happy, and doing things to help him or her to be happy. But your partner has to also do things for you. It has to be mutual.

I don't need a man to make me happy or for me to feel whole. While I do have a boyfriend right now, I also enjoy being single and available. But I definitely want a man. I enjoy things that come with a committed relationship. I see both statuses (is that the correct plural?) as being good and exciting. When I'm single and available, I don't feel like I have to find the next guy to join in a relationship. I just enjoy dating until the right guy comes along.

Oh, and I forgot: I love that story, fayerody of how you stood up to your father and didn't accept the idea of women being below men!