Maven, i can't help but notice that someone will start a thread and before we know it, you're off topic and suggesting that whatever the thread about is either wrong or men are being abused, etc. etc.

my suggestion is this: the next time you find that someone has started their very own personal thread about their very own personal problem and you find that you want to add something that you know in your heart is "off topic"...... i would like to see you stop, breathe and don't hit the submit button. i think it would be a good idea start a new thread about whatever it is that is bothering you and i'm sure you'll find that a lot of people will discuss whatever issue you have with the thread that the original poster started for him/herself.

i don'tbelieve that it is supportive to :

1. interupt someone else's thread to let them know that you disagree with whatever and totally get off topic.

2. invalidate their feelings about what is troubling them. after all, most of the time a thread wouldn't be started unless someone wanted to discuss a personal issue..

3. agree that there was indeed a problem that was troubling the poster and in the next breath start a paragraph about male bashing.

i expect you to take each paragraph of what i've written and dissect it. be my guest. it's how i feel about this issue and i'm sticking to it. pat