There are good an patient guys out there. My husband dated a girl (who I knew well) before we dated. He broke it off with her because he was not into the "get a room type" of public displays of affection. He did not want to be with a girl who sex was all she wanted. Good thing because I'm the polar opposite of this girl.
My husband and I waited a long time. We had lots of discussions about what we had been threw with others prior to this, what we wanted out of our relationship it we did have sex, any boundries we may have. My poor husband I must have scared him to death. Apparently not though. The first time we did it, it was in the dark, I kept my shirt on, and it was all o.k. No big fireworks but no big panic attack either. We didn't have sex often, it always always included lots of conversation before hand.
Guys are nervous to. They have a lot on there mind as far as sex goes. It's not all SEX, SEX, SEX. A guy who is worth having is one who cares and one who waits. If he's only interested in sex don't stay around. Good guys exist.