I actually hear the author speak on this. She is a Christian (as I am) but she comes from a very conservative, women-stay-at-home, please your husband standpoint. I think it might come out in this book, because it doesn't say much about how men can actually be attracted to women with good self-esteem, women who have intelligent minds and aspirations (not that they compete or take precident over the marraige). In a survey, you sorta get what you ask for... you never present answers to questions you failed to ask, and I think she perhaps forgot to consider the benefit of 2 enriching people uniting and that effect on a man. Instead sometimes the survey comes off as all the things women should do to make the man happy. We women could form a list like that too, and I think she has also done that one, but I think the benefit of the book is there are some things we don't consider about men; however, we should also remember, that relationships are meant to enjoy each other. (both ways)