Please don't be too hard on yourself - I have tons of issues yet like you, I can pick up on things and people. Many times I just keep quiet about what I feel but every now and then I put my foot in my mouth and just say it out.
If your T has issues then you have just helped him realize that he too needs to get things straightened out. Good for you for speakin out - don't do self harm - its kinda a spiral thing - once you start, it keeps happening over and over and over again. We are all for you - YOU DID NOTHING WRONG - be good to yourself -you will either find another T or He will come around