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Old Jul 04, 2012, 10:56 PM
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Originally Posted by InTherapy View Post
I'm sorry that this happened.

I don't think it's a reflection on you, but a reflection on T. If your inference was just guesswork and clues, then I don't think your T should really be upset.

It sounds like maybe your T was/is worried about boundary violation; that you had been doing research on her or somehow underhandedly found out something which she would not normally reveal to clients.

I don't think you did anything wrong. Hang in there. Hopefully your T will calm down and think about it this week, and be ready to address it in a calm way in your next session.
I dont think there is going to be a next session and that is why i am freaked...when i did my blurt ..t was visibly upset..i said. I am correct arent i? T stonewalled and we got into a strange back and forth in which it was a face off..and then i said..i just dont think that i can work with you not knowing what this approach seems to rule out. And what it rules in. I stood up to leave and i said i really need to know what you are willing to deal with and now..no progress. I waited. Then i met t outside the office and impulsively said I cannot come back. T wanted to set up a final session to say goodbye. I said I am saying goodbye now. I was so thoroughly flipped that she had handled my righton declaration so badly that i just ran for cover. I dont know what to do except hide at home, have withdrawn socially and feel like i might as well just quit therapy altogether. Honestly, i get more from chatting with friends but i dont even want to see them. I feel defective...too flawed for even a shrink to deal with. BAH!