I wanted to share one more thing. This was on my mind last night and I asked my wife, "is it okay that I am still in therapy?" It's been about a year in this round, and she knows that I had about 5 years before we met, and then about a year and a half into our relationship. She said back to me very gently, "Given what you went through in your childhood, I think that you need to take whatever time you need to heal in the way that you need to. You can go forever if that's what you need."

Or something like that. I was kind of teary eyed after "childhood", so I might have missed some words.

However, I am NOT going to therapy forever. I think I'll wrap it up within 6 months to a year.