I think it's a great idea, even if she tells you she cannot accept it. It gives you an opportunity to talk to her about what it means to you, and why you chose it, and what she means to you.

I bought my T a little horse figurine for Christmas. It was a little boy boosting a little girl up on a horse. For a variety of reasons, it was really meaningful to me and I thought it was representative of our relationship. My T said he loved it and it's still sitting on the shelf right above his computer screen. I also got him a cap for his birthday -- it was kind of silly. He had made a reference to the ATF one time in a telephone call, and I was like , and we had talked about that reference and laughed about it in session one time, so when I saw an ATF ball cap for sale, I bought it.

He said he typically doesn't accept gifts, but the first was really meaningful and we talked about it before he accepted it. The second was just silly and inexpensive and made us both laugh. He said part of the boundary is about what the client thinks about the gift and what the expectations are associated with the gift.