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I didn't know if to take this serious or laugh........so I will just smile.......This kinda makes men look pathetic... just my humble opinion

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Dear Radio Flyer..... I do believe that you missed the over all point to my first post..... it was not to make a deal about any of the items listed - it was to help us (the females / wives) to understand how our men feel at times.... the surface insight (what people see up front) is listed first them the deeper emotional issue (the good part of the man) is listed under each one of them..... and the book goes on to explain each in fuller details with great compassion for the men of this world.

>>>>>>>>> Everyone please KNOW that this thread is not meant to bash, harass, or condemn the male species..... it was and is done to HELP, and if any one else is seeing any thing different it is coming from inside of them and not from me, the book or the author..... IF every one will take a step back and wait for the remaining articles to come on each subject at hand you will see the whole picture and then say Ahhhhhhhhh I See NOW!!

Thanks....
LoVe,
Rhapsody -

EXAMPLE: (and remember this book "4-Women Only" was written to help the female understand the man, therefore, it is based on HIM and his wants / needs..... and not that of her needs, that is coming in the next book "For Men Only"

1.) Men need respect:
This statement meant that while the females needs to be and to feel loved by her man..... he man needs to feel RESPECTED above all else by her..... for Respect is translated into LOVE for a man..... if a MAN is disrespect by his lady he will NOT feel loved by her.

...... Ladies need to realize this part of the MAN - for they see love differently than we do.

2.) Men are Insecure:
I will not tackle this one right now for it needs more details..... but it is not saying what others are thinking it is all about - the chapter goes into how he feels like this at times (why) and how understanding this can help us support HIM better.

3.)MEN need to Provide:
No issue here...... this chapter helps the wife to understand why he puts his entire self into his work.... for it is one way he shows his love for her and his family and that it is literally imprinted in him to provide, therefore, he could not stop if he wanted to. Plus it explains how many men find their self worth in his job and being able to provide for his loved one.

4.) Men want more SEX:
This chapter helps the wife to understand that sex is as much as an emotional need to her man and his attention and hugs are to her..... and that saying NO to sex (unless sick or physical worn out) is like saying no to him the person - he feels unwanted and unloved at times without being with you sexually..... for men need and want sex for both the emotional bonding part and the physical pleasure part.

5.) The Visual part:
Once again no real issue here unless he is using porn or lust in place of his woman..... but in all this chapter explains how his looking or finding it hard to turn away from the beauty he has just seen does not in any ways effect his love for his wife - it helps the wife to understand that the first look is natural and that we should not feel unloved if it happens.

6.) Men are unromantic clods:
This chapter was not saying this at all..... if the time was taken to read the deeper emotion listed under the surface level you would have seen that this chapter tells why he feels like an romantic clog and NOT why he is one. That he wants to romance his love but that he is also afraid of failing, therefore, he often does nothing.

7.) Men care about appearance:
This chapter is to help the wife to see that he loves her no matter what and that while her appearance may be of concern to her husband (at times) - she does not have to fear the loss of his love just because she is no longer a size 3..... he just wants to know that you are doing your best to be the best you that you can be.

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NOW - can you all see that what I wrote was possibly taken the wrong way by some..... and that reading the entire context is very important, from beginning to end?

LoVe,
Rhapsody -