BatsandButterflies
I have to confess that I have been guilty of telling my own daughter that she is annoying. I absolutely do not want her to believe that statement and have explained to her that it has more to do with me, and there is nothing wrong with her at all. We have personalities that are very different. I had a childhood where it was very important to my safety to be quiet and become as invisible and possible. My youngest daughter is a firecracker. Her personality is outgoing, creative, full of physical energy and she is very smart. I would not want her to change a single thing about herself, and I envy her outgoing spirit. The times that I have called her annoying are the times when I am in a down cycle and get completely overwhelmed with trying to respond to her exuberance. When I am overwhelmed, I don't care to speak to anyone and have alot of difficulty interacting. As a mom, I know that shutting down is not helpful for either of us. I occasionally take her to therapy with me so we can talk about things and the therapist and I can help her understand what is wrong with me. (BPII, ADD, chronic fatigue, migraines--a list of bleh!) As a child, my teachers always reported to my parents how "quiet" I was, and my daughter's teachers always tell me she is very "social" and "talks alot".
My point is, be who you are and don't let anyone else's labels define you. I don't want my daughter to hide her energy and joy of living because of my issues. If you were my daughter, I wouldn't want that for you either.