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Old Jul 05, 2012, 07:51 PM
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I understand what you are saying, Jimrat, and I certainly can appreciate your perspective. As it turned out, he said he wasn't trying to be critical of us as his parents, but was in a discussion about that speaker who told a graduating class that "they weren't special." He was indicating that we as his parents were not the "helicopter parents" that most folks of our generation are, so he felt he had missed out on that.

Alas, I am very sensitive to criticism, and I jumped the gun.

As far as his talking to people, he is very open to do that, and he has told most everybody he knows about his mentally-ill parents, including his teachers. As I mentioned, he has had therapy and was free to tell his T anything he wanted to, of course.

I truly know the value of having someone to talk to. My parents had personality disorders and my childhood was not a happy one. In fact, I have been told that had I not had a sister to share the experiences with and to talk about our feelings, then I would have turned out psychotic. I shared my feelings with a teacher in high school as well. (Back then there was no Internet!)

However, that all said, I have never mentioned anything about my childhood experiences and my feelings toward my parents on Facebook. And I never plan to. Of course, since he is an adult, then he can do what he wants. I still say that people need to be careful what they put on their Facebook pages.