I can understand your perspective, Payne. I'm highly sensitive to criticism myself, so I can personally appreciate what you're talking about. It seems that you and your husband just have different ideals than your son does on this issue.

Perhaps you should look at it this way: Are your different ideals that important to you? Will talking with your son change his behavior (tendency to be open about some pains felt in his childhood)? Will talking with your son create some wedge between you? Is it worth it?

Really think about those Q's, and answer them honestly. That will give you the decision that you feel is right for you.

I hope that you are able to grow more comfortable with your son sharing his personal experiences growing up without becoming hurt. I'm sure that it is difficult & I don't look forward to when my daughters reach that phase of their lives. What I do hope (for myself and you) is that our children feel safe enough with us. That they don't fear us freaking out and becoming locked up, to manage our mood. I hope that they are able to go on and live happy, healthy lives.

Very best wishes to you! Take care...