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Old Jul 05, 2012, 10:55 PM
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I am a Ray Bradbury fan, and sometimes I see T2 as one of his Martians - a shape-shifter, who takes on the form that the other person needs just by picking up his/her thoughts and feelings. Then that client goes out, T2 reverts to her own face for a minute, until next client comes in, and the shifting begins anew.

For Bradbury's Martians this was exhausting and painful, sometimes even fatal. My T seems to thrive on it. if I can keep this image, maybe I can prevent trying to get personal ("human") reactions from her, when there's really a Martian there.
I can identify with that a lot. With my most recent t, it's not only shape shifting from one client to the next, but from one session with me to the next. He swings back and forth, on about a 4 session cycle I think, from ridiculously supportive to cold and pushy. I am engaged enough that it affects me a lot, yet I can step back and it all seems fake.

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I wonder if their families would recognize them if they encountered the T's in T mode?
I wondered that too.

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my own shape-shifter gave me just a glimpse of her whole self this week.
This reminds me of a time a t had her sick children waiting for her in another room. The moment our time was up, her attention to me snapped and she was up, out the door to check on her kids. It's understandable of course, and shows how much she cares about her kids, but it still surprised me how abruptly she could drop engagement in conversation that seems so intense/difficult to me. It is still impossible for me to imagine how t's can engage so apparently genuinely, yet not genuine in the sense it mostly ends on cue.