oh, mue - I just assumed the program would be no-call. I guess I have watched too many soap operas in my time! - the actresses usually take their maternity leave then, so they really are incommunicado! but I know about not being believed. my FOO didn't believe me when I said I had to work certain holidays, etc - they just didn't understand the nature of my computer job. I guess they figured if my cousin's husband called golf "work", I must be pulling the same kind of scam. I wish I had understood better why they were pressuring me. They made it sound as if I truly had a choice between work and family. But to them, they didn't believe there WAS work - they thought that by not coming, I was just rejecting family, not trying to save my effing job. which I did get fired from, because they won. I hate them.