MUE...your friend sounds like my mom. sorry you went thru that!
Wolfin..thanks, hugs are greatly appreciated
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Originally Posted by critterlady
I think what I would do is leave mom with a list of numbers she can call and tell her that I will answer voicemails twice a day, but will not pick up the phone any other time. Boundaries.
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This is kind of what I was thinking, thanks CL.
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Originally Posted by peaches100
Be kind but firm. Don't let her make you feel guilty!  |
Guilt is a difficult thing to drop, but I am trying.
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Originally Posted by My kids are cool
Don't answer the phone.
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Your mom sounds a lot like mine, except mine is a itty bitty little thing. I am going to keep my cell phone off. There is a payphone that is only on for a couple of hours, the number is unlisted and the desk won't give it out. They will only take calls from people I have signed a release for...that won't include mom.
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Originally Posted by hankster
You put it in terms they can understand. You just explain it's like one of those programs they send people to on Dr Phil (or the soap operas), where they don't LET people have phone calls. (YOUR word doesn't mean anything, but Nikki on The Young and the Restless, well, she KNOWS her.)
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ha...yea, I will probably have to dig out an old Marcus Welby episode though!
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Originally Posted by Apteryx
You need to create a space for yourself in order to get as much out of these weeks as you can, and you really deserve to get that. No guilt for making this happen and work for you. |
I do need some space, it's been far too long.
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Originally Posted by farmergirl
Go beyond just putting your siblings on notice. They need to be taking over mom duty completely while you are away. In fact, they should be probably doing more of this regularly now anyway, although maybe they already are. I can't quite tell from your post.
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I have 6 siblings, 4 live in other states but 2 are close by. They don't do much care, but my brother does kick in on weekends for me. The problem usually ends up being that she wants me. (but when she has me she's mean..arg)
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Originally Posted by skeksi
For example, mom might say, "I want you to come do X right now." and I might say, "UNfortunately, I can't come do X now. But this weekend, why don't I come over and do Y? I really want to see you and do Y."
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I think you have listened in on my phone calls...except if I say I can't do something today she shows up on my doorstep unannounced. I should have never bought a home this close to her.
THanks Karebear
Kiki...hugs are always great.
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Originally Posted by Calista+12
I am not allowed to be involved in any aspect of my mother's life. There is no happy medium, I guess...it's too "all or nothing". I really hope you can concentrate on yourself and your siblings will handle the rest. Good luck to you.
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Sorry you were cut out Calista! That's hard too.