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Jul 06, 2012, 05:39 PM
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Member Since: Oct 2010
Location: Michigan
Posts: 6,543
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Hi ~ I lost my husband 11 years ago, and when he died, I thought I was going to lose my mind. He and I were almost one -- we could read each others thoughts -- we knew what each other was thinking. We did everything together.
I didn't know how I was going to make it -- thank GOD for my daughter! She stayed with me for 2 weeks afterwards, but stil. I was an absolute basket case for a LONG time.  I could function, but it was like I was walking in a fog. I paid the bills, I took care of responsibilities -- but I wasn't "right." I went thru the first year like that, even tho I got counseling thru a grief counselor.
After the first year, I "came out of it." It was still hard, and I cried at the drop of a hat, but I just took baby steps and took it a minute at a time cause a day at a time was too much. 
We do what we can do. That's all anyone can ask of us. If you have a good friend or relative that you can rely on, USE them. This is a difficult time for you. There are 5 stages of grief: Shock, anger, Depression, Bargaining and Acceptance. I never went thru the Bargaining stage, but I went thru all the others. How long we stay in each stage is different for each person. From what you say you're probably in the depression stage, or you MIGHT be in the bargaining stage.
I'm glad you're getting help. That's really important. You're making progress -- I know it doesn't seem like it, but you are. I wish you the very best. Keep posting, and venting. It really helps. God bless and take care. Hugs, Lee 
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