(((V))),

It is not just you that struggles to be loved. It is a problem for many people. If it wasn't a problem there would not be so many dating sites and people who use them also looking for love. And just because people turn to those sites it doesn't mean they find love there either.

Friends? That is hard to come by as well, there are lots of people who don't really have friends you know. And these people get lonely too, and they may wonder why.
Truth is, if we have one really good friend in our life, we are very lucky.

I just don't want you to think, "you are the only one" that struggles with love and friends, because that would not be fair to yourself.

When you meet a potential "girl" that may be a friend, do you talk about not liking yourself and your rejections? I do have to agree with the other poster that talked about "liking yourself first".

I am very "sorry" that you had a plan to meet up with a girl and she did not show up.
I think that is "her" issue and not yours.

I met a VERY nice couple around me and my husband's age and they had a Memorial day picnic that they planned and invited a bunch of people and had bought a lot of food. NO ONE SHOWED UP or even CALLED TO SAY THEY WOULD NOT BE COMING.

And I do a lot of entertaining at parties and often I hear the people who are throwing the party talk about people not RSVPing or showing up too. And then people do show up and they are over 2 hours late.

V, I don't know what is wrong with people now, but I have to say, that people have changed a lot over the years. People are distant and not friendly and they lack respect for others. This is not just you, I see this a lot.

That couple I met, they were REALLY NICE, and I just could not believe that they sat there with all that food AND NONE OF THEIR GUESTS SHOWED UP, Oh how RUDE. And they invited a lot of people who said they were coming too.

I just don't want you to think, "it is only YOU" because you are really not alone in your struggle to have friends and find a girlfriend.

I just wanted to add something here. THE most active forum on this site that I have noticed, is the relationship forum. I don't ever see anyone that isn't struggling and alone somehow in this forum. And then, scolling down, the next most visited forum is depression.

I have noticed a big change in people as I mentioned and since the economy did the downturn, people have been more worried and lost and depressed than a very long time. And people get married much later in life now too.

(((Hugs)))
Open Eyes