I haven't said it because I don't think it's something I feel. I'm very attached to my (ex)T, really admire her and look up to her, and have even told her "I just really like you." I really want to be friends with her, but totally get why that could never happen for both her benefit and mine. "Love" just doesn't really capture my relationship with her, though. I'm also sure she would NEVER say it to a client. When I was having some issues with the impending termination, she shared with me these words: “If you want to know that I care about you, I care about you. If you want to know that you’re important to me, you’re important to me. I want you to know that I want only for the best, most kind and helpful people to cross your path and stay with you. I want you to like yourself and believe that you’re deserving.” She went on to say that we don’t have to talk to have a connection, and wherever I go, the relationship will be with me. She’ll be with me and a part of me. Hearing those words made my freakin' day!

When I told her that I really like her and also wrote her a short letter about how I wish we could be friends and that it hurts that we can't, she thanked me for holding her in such high esteem. She's also shared that she's invested in me and other stuff that means a lot to me. So I think we had a really good bond and caring relationship, but "love" just wasn't how either of us would describe it.


If you feel something, whether love or anything else, I think it's good to share that with your T. They might already know and, if not, it'll be good to discuss or at least get it out there.