Thank you for the links, I will read them today.

Leed you are spot on, for as long as I've known him he has never taken meds for 6 weeks straight. I can't force him to, as he thinks all I see is him as one big label of depression. I've said he must do other things such as take walks in the sunshine, eat fruit and veg, lose weight, quit smoking.. but all one step at a time. But he cant do it. He tries then fails then feels worse.
He knows he has a drink problem but wont/cant face dealing with it.

He is breaking up with me, he says he won't feel depressed if he is with me. So that's it over. I'm so angry and at upset that hes taking the easy way out.