((((Bash)))) I am sorry you are struggling so much. I can relate. I struggled with agoraphobia, pan/anx/depression. One of the hardest parts about agoraphobia is the isolation. I too went to the ER for what I thought was heart trouble...it was a severe anx attack. The symptoms are very similar to an MI. I am glad your husband is ok.
Have you been able to pinpoint what caused the anx attack to begin with? If you dont have one I would urge you to speak with a T. It can really help. Also, I hope you will see your dr about the depression. There is absolutely no reason for you to suffer like this. You can get help and start working to get better...you have to just take that step.
The unnecessary spending is a symptom as well of something deeper. Perhaps you can explore that with your T as well. Especially because these actions could have serious consequences on your family's financial health and well being. This could create a situation that could make things a lot worse than they already are
Wishing you the best. I truly hope you will speak with your dr and find a good T so you can start really living life again.
Kind regards
Rose