Yes...accepting...something I need to work on. After all, if Darwin's 'Survival of the fittest' concept wasn't in play, we probably wouldn't even be here. However, just as I may be very 'live and let live', I realize the opposite extreme is the 'win at all costs' mentality. This is the one I have trouble with. Just as they say being 'passive' is not healthy, being 'aggressive' also is not healthy for anybody interacting with that person. I aim to be simply 'assertive' - not walking over others and not getting walked all over either. How to accept aggressors? I think I need to not allow myself to get sucked into playing by their rules. I am not triggered by locking my front door. It's just an intelligent way to deal with aggressors. I do however get triggered by people who always have to get their way. When they don't get it, they get angry and abusive. I let them suck me in. And they have the ability to let a fight go on forever. They eventually just wear me down and get everything they want, usually at my expense. I thought that was acceptance. It isn't. It's giving in. The rage lives on...I've got to learn to just get up and walk away. The emotional equivalent of 'locking the front door' I suppose...worth a try anyway.