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Originally Posted by pbutton
In the interest of full disclosure, I did not explain myself very well. I did not tell him the comment hurt my feelings. Instead I said it was an awful thing for him to say & that people on this board don't even like to SEE their T's other patients yet there mine is, comparing me to his in my session.
I am taking it to mean that he is determining I am less worthy of help
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Ah, the old comparison thing. I remember when I was 9 and moved from the Washington, D.C. suburbs to Norfolk, VA and was supposed to start 4th grade but they could not find my smallpox vaccination scar so I had to get revaccinated. My father was in the Navy so we go to the Navy dispensary (this was back in 1959) and it's toward the beginning of the year so there are all these first graders needing their smallpox vaccination and they were all crying, etc. The doctor tells me (love being the military brat, stiff upper lip and all that) to pretend it does not hurt so it will give confidence to the younger kids.
I think that is sort of how your T is meaning your therapy; no you are not grown up yet, ready to necessarily terminate therapy and ride off into the sunset but, for this episode of therapy, you're in a better place than the first timer, six year olds. Your difficulties and defenses are such that you'll be "okay" (not cry :-) until you can get up and running with T2.
Assuming another person's meaning without checking it out with that person has long gotten me in trouble. I always got "marked down" in my therapy grades
for not doing "reality checking".
http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/...nd-your-dreams