I see where coco is coming from and agree with a lot of the points she's making. I just didn't get really upset about what coco points out because I assumed there was at least some anger behind the original post so I was happy to just let it in one eye and out the other.

I don't think rgb11's comment 'as an equal' was meant to be as bad as it may have come across. I just saw a situation that bears some similarity to what has happened with me so I offered what support I could.... Still, all that said, I do really see where coco is coming from.

Now, back to your man, rgb. Here is the thing. You are willing to work and learn to accept this. He, on the other hand, doesn't seem to care at all about how his BP is effecting the woman he 'loves'. He isn't in therapy but sounds like he needs it, he takes sleeping pills for fun, drinks energy drinks like it's going out of style and smokes weed. Not only does he not care about how you can better handle his BP, he doesn't even care how he handles it. Those things that he is or is not doing is a list of things to not do if you are BP.

From what I've gotten out of these posts, all I see is a guy who a mental illness that doesn't care in the slightest how it effects others around him. What point is there in staying with a man like that?

The people you will find in this forum, some of us got dealt a terrible hands in our card game (lets just go with this analogy). But we don't care, we are going to make the best of that hand and find a way to win this game regardless of how hard it gets. Your boyfriend? He's just throwing any old card out there and he doesn't care if he wins or not. There is no hope with someone like that, no amount of work you can do on yourself will change him. Just my opinion.