Oh I can relate about the grief counselor not helping. In case my experiences might help you--I went to five of them, some were social workers, some were psychologists, and they, like yours, said things I already knew and I did not feel any better. None of them delved into my past or family dynamics and deep down I knew I needed someone who would do that, to figure out why I was feeling so bad for so long. But I never verbalized that to the counselors. and now I know I should have. I gave up trying for a while. Recently I decided to try again but I decided this time I would tell the T what I needed from them if I needed to. I finally went online and found a good candidate. We had a free phone consultation and she sounded right. I just had my first session with her and she was great. I hope you won't have to go through as many Ts as I have. Wishing you much peace and happiness.