So don't automatically assume its YOU, LostAngel. What's going on with your girl? There are two sides in every relationship, remember. (Wow, I'm clever!) Talk to each other. Ask her--Can you do that?

You're not a freak--you're a mother, and all mothers and daughters have issues. But if your daughter's a teenage, she will probably make you out to be a freak if you let her.

Don't let her. Take the opportunity to work this mother/teen encounter out. Don't let this kind of friction feed your addiction. If you have a teenager, it's going to happen over and over again. Did not only doesn't have much to do with you ... it really doesn't have much to do with alcoholism--except in how alcoholics might predictably deal with this. We ... um ... have the slightest tendency to be a tad defensive ...

I do better when I fight this defensive inclination and try some gentle, non-combative honesty. Like with the Beaches crying discussion. It's important for kids to know that *feeling* doesn't always show. However she comes at you, try using a counter approach: a quiet voice if she shouts, a strong firm voice if she whimpers. But maintain eye contact and (IF she's a teen) remember she's a hormone-tossed teen.

Hormones are just another sort of drug . They're everywhere!.
Roadie