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Jul 08, 2012, 03:41 PM
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Member Since: Oct 2010
Location: Michigan
Posts: 6,543
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Obviously your Dad hasn't really grieved about all this, particularly the horror at finding is beloved mother when she committed suicide -- that HAD to affect him terribly!  Back then it was unusual to see a 'therapist' as it was seen as being 'insane" and a stigma was attached to anyone who DID see a psychiatrist or psychologist. 
He really does need to see someone, but i seriously doubt at this point that he would agree to it since he was brought up in THOSE times. He probably still thinks that stigma is attached to people who get help.
I really do think this should be done by a professional too who knows what they're doing, as this could be very dangerous for him. I would try to get him to go to one FIRST before trying to do this on your own. Please try.
You could try to sit him down in some quiet room and gently ask him about his past -- but since he's kept it hidden for so long, don't be surprised if he's not willing to talk about it. You can try to get him to talk but be careful and be gentle. He's HURTING and badly. You don't want to bring the horror to the present too quickly. Best of luck and let us know what happens. Again, be careful. Hugs, Lee
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