OK, so I am never sure which one of us is totally crazy, my mother or myself.

A little background, mother had me young (she was 17) and single up until I was 16. Worked many jobs and made many sacrifices for me, but still screwed up in unbelievable ways: too many men to count in and out; sexual abuse on me by her friends; rampant drug use; inconsistent church attendance so that it was confusing; consistent emotional manipulation; occasional physical abuse; superbly controlling (then allowing her new husband to do the same when I was 16 and she married). I moved out at 17, am now 36 mostly stable...normal family, 4 kids, good husband, problems of my own, still hold some resentment towards my mother for my growing up years, while at the same time recognizing that she did the best she could...blah blah blah. Here I am to the crux of my question/problem

SHE DRIVES ME CRAZY...LOL

No, not really, but sometimes kind of. Today the problem lies with the phone. I hate it A LOT. We only use cell phones in our house, and the microphone is broken on mine (I'm waiting for the new phone to come out on T-mobile in 3 days) so whenever I need to actually speak on the phone, I have to borrow my husband's (he's fine with this) but it is inconvenient. I can't stand talking on the phone anyway...ugh...and would almost always rather text or email. I've been sick since yesterday morning with the summer flu, and my mother has been calling and texting with concern...I've answered her texts sporadically but not her calls. Finally called her back today at 3 (because she kept calling and texting me asking me to call) and the information she had to impart was nonsensical. She wanted to tell me where the cleaning supplies were because I am cleaning one of her rentals for her tomorrow because she is too busy. When I remind her how much I hate the phone and that she could have just texted me she gives me this guilt trip about how she likes to hear her daughter's voice....blah blah blah. Then she says I talk to my girlfriends fine on the phone (not true). I even went so far as to check my phone records, I talk to her over three times more than anyone else, and her calls are the longest.

OK...so I understand she wants to communicate with me, hear my voice, she loves me...I get it, I have kids. Here is my point though...just because she wans something...do I have to give it? Because she'd be much happier talking to me on the phone more often, do I have to feel guilty and comply even though talking on the phone, and sometimes talking to her, make me unhappy?