Thank you! So I do not think he will call me back, and I have three possible reasons for it.

1) He did not like my appearance.
2) He took the stance of a therapist and thus spoiled the fun for himself.
3) I honestly told him, when asked directly, that I would want to be married to my ex. He might have decided that I have too much baggage, am not available, etc. Again, had he not taken the stance in number (2) above, I would not have volunteered that I would have preferred to stay married to my ex, so he brought it upon himself. He asked perfectly directly, I could not help answering honestly.

I liked him. He has a pleasant face, not as in "cute", but as in "intellectual", and I am fine with that. He is not as enormously fat as he appeared on his dating site photos. In fact, he looks overall better than his pictures portray him - I was even going to tell him that but for some reason I did shy away. He is smart. He spent some time telling me about his own recent events, which was interesting. He did not like the restaurant, which I picked for one simple reason: my ex strongly did not like it some years ago so I was assured that there would be no mid-air collision. But the restaurant had 186 rave Yelp reviews so I felt safe suggesting it. No... A. sent his leftover food to my cats, and even they were not too keen on it. So I decided that I do not have a lucky hand with meal choices and IFF he calls again (which I doubt, read on), I will let him pick a restaurant provided it is in the city, because my ex does not go up to the city more than once a year.

A. is an unusual modern p-doc in that he does not believe in DSM and has very limited faith in medication. He believes a lot in parental influence. But I know, for instance (I did not tell him because I did not want to talk about my kids) that my older daughter shows signs of the illness as well as behavior patterns common to me and my late mom, while her little sister does not. They were brought up in the same fashion, lovingly without abuse, so biological genetics must be at play. One got a certain set of genes and the other did not. Not all is upbringing. But as he was expounding his theories, I was just knodding, fixing my large eyes unblinkingly on his face. Even though I was so attentive, his theories were hard for me to comprehend, or perhaps he was not the greatest story-teller, so I would not try to capture them all here, suffice is to say that he called certain things I did in my early twenties just being a "stupid girl" as opposed to having a pathology and my suicide attempt an unfortunate form of communication. I think there is something to it. But there was too much quizzing me and that is where it got to the point when I started feeling I am being in someone's office rather than at a restaurant, and that is when he asked me directly whether I would want to be married to my ex.

After the meal, he asked me, in a shaky voice, "How is dating going?". I responded with "I am not dating, you are an exception". He said, "So I should feel no pressure", to which I knodded. At that point I thought that he liked me because why else would he have bothered to ask this question? And especially have a shaky voice while posing it? Any ideas?

He gave me a lift home. I told him that I would have invited him for tea but the place is a mess. "It is that bad?". "Yes, it is that bad" (referring to the stories of overbuying from container store that I had told him earlier). I think I was both polite and earnest telling him that I would have invited him.

This morning, I sent him a thank-you note. There was no reply. I realized that the note was too formal, to the point of being off-putting. I called him. He was on the phone with his mom. I asked to call me after he is done. He was pleasant over the phone, I asked him empty questions to keep the talk going (nothing psychopathological ) and then said bye, and he was audibly relived to say bye on his end. Oh, and he told me that he is a depressive, not a bp, but he welcomes bps - and here he made the obvious joke about hypersexuality. That was at the dinner table. Oh, and he told me that he has known women who have had sex without wanting it. "They felt obligated?" "Yes, sort of". "No, that is not me!!!". So this is all for the juicy stuff, I am afraid. Thanks for reading!!