It's you (who are crazy, not wrong :-)

You remind me of my boss who was looking for me and finally found me, asked me where I was and when I told him he replied, "No you weren't". I got really confused, trying to figure out where I had been if I wasn't where I was?

Let her text and call if she wants; that does not mean you have to reply or defend yourself and actions! You are not a bad daughter but, she can want what she wants. However, her wants are not your command! Your wants are your command. You do not want to talk on the phone that much, you set a boundary and then that's your boundary. "Hey, Mom, I don't like talking on the phone, I will not be calling or talking to you more than once a day, if it's urgent, text me; I'll read it but I may not reply right away" or whatever.

She can rail against that all she wants but probably won't when she sees it does not affect you? People "interact" with us only as long as we interact! They (and we) want others to pay attention, to respond, to. . .interact. If you say I am/am not going to do X, and do/do not do X, then there's no more discussion possible? If, when you do talk to her on the phone she gets into complaining and reviling you, etc. you interrupt and ask her if she really wants to spend her one conversation a day with you in that fashion because it takes two to have a conversation and you are not liking "this" one and will disconnect if she does not get to the pleasant conversing part