I've told my t in indirect ways, such as saying in an email, "I think I'm starting t love you" or "I'm afraid of loving you and then getting hurt." I've never actually said "I love you" in person, in the room with her. I've been seeing her 12 years, and she has never said "I love you" to me. However, she has said she cares deeply for me and that she will feel very sad down the road when we terminate and are no longer working together. She has also done lovely things at times to show she cares, such as one time when i was crying, she took a tissue and wiped away my tears.