This is primarily for the ladies on the board, but I would love to have the gentlemen chime in.

About myself: I am undergoing a divorce which is very painful for me, as I brought it on myself, destroying my ex-husband's life recklessly and consistently and then found myself weeping and grieving the loss. If I could, I would have sex with him, but it is not an option. I last had sex with him three years ago. Since then, I have been on psychiatric medications that killed both desire and ability to orgasm. Prior to starting these particular medications, I was multi-orgasmic. I came "at the hands" - of my partner or, less interestingly, myself. I could not come from oral sex, but I probably just lacked skillful applications. I also experienced what I called "empathetic orgasm" during intercourse or fellatio - a build-up of passion inside me in response to my partner's coming, and a pleasant release timed together with his. I really enjoyed it. I also had the most peculiar orgasms which I called "effortless, touchless orgasms", and the only person who ever described anything similar was my mother. Like me, she was bipolar, so I am thinking that perhaps it is a "bipolar orgasm". It is a sensation that lasts a split second, occuring somewhere in the torso. Sometimes it is more "erogenous zone"-related - it may "enter" the body from the vagina and "exit" from the nipples or vice versa, and sometimes it is just at random places within the torso. It is intensely pleasurable. Like nothing else. It is therefore very hard to describe. What produces this sensation is simple thought, fantasy, daydreaming, recollection of past sex or a an idea of future sex, from very gentle to hardcore. For me, it is just with actual people I know.

Gotta go to work now, will describe it in more detail letter, suffice it to say that probably thanks to prozac but my drive and these fluttering orgasms returned a couple of months ago. I still cannot come for real from masturbation, which is a shame, but I have the gift of these effortless orgasms.

I am very curious as to what kind of orgasms you ladies experience. Anything along the lines of mine? I am also curious as to the oral experience - how did you feel your first oral orgasm, was it "much work" or a breeze, is it stronger/weaker/different vis-a-vis hands?