and that's when the r/s with T becomes so important, yet so simple. It's like somebody helping with the dishes - all of a sudden it's more fun and half as much work, whereas before it was a horrible chore and burden to be faced alone. With a buddy? - it's almost fun! But we were left alone so often to deal with things, and having a "buddy" along usually made things worse, not better - we paid dearly for any kind of companionship. Well, it's not like that with T. So take that helping hand.