critterlady, this is a tough situation. I remember telling my T about a normal day in my childhood and he got all weepy. I was perplexed, then horrified and then perplexed and pissy again. What I thought was totally normal was enough to make a person who actually IS normal cry. Wrapping your head about the fact that your 'normal' is someone else's 'abuse' is so very hard. Big hugs to you.