I remember pushing the words "abusive and neglectful" out of my head the first 5 or 6 times T said it to me. Couldn't or wouldn't hear them. then, when I finally did- could hardly believe it was true. Right now, based on the dreams I've had over the past week or so, I think I'm entering the angry phase. Sooooooooo scarey!!!

hang in there CL........there are many of us that have gone through or are going through what you are! You have lots of support here!