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Originally Posted by zzzcat
Geez:
Once you lose that feeling of dependence on people that remind you of your mother (or whomever belittled you, abused you) things will improve for you, but for me that took many years. If a friend has a mean streak and takes it out on you (I call them frenemies), then you are better off without them.
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zzzcat thank you for sharing. It's funny that I have shed these relationships when I had another person 'to go to'. Someone waiting in the wings that allowed me to move on. I guess some relationship is better than no relationship?-that's something that just came to mind.
My current and only close friend I'm now feeling like I need to distance myself because there are elements of her personality that are 'winner/loser'. In some ways I'm attracted to that because I too want to be 'strong' in my decisions and have a strong back bone. She has been very supportive and yet there are times where I see the winner/loser dynamic pop up. Ironicaly she's in therapy too and we go to the same T
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I understand all of what you wrote but my fear is in being alone.
This is so scary. I 'get it' and I'm so scared of where to go from here.